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Ruling of a Woman Visiting her Dead Husband
His Eminence the Great Scholar and Imam
Shaikh Abdul-Aziz bin Baz
(رحمه اللّه)
Question:
I have a sister who is a lot older than me whose husband passed away and visits his grave. With the fact that she is much older than me I am not able to ask her to stop visiting her dead husband in the grave yard, as the legislation says, so what is the ruling?
Ruling:
What is obligatory is that you convey to her the legislation and advise her and the religion is sincere advise. Allah says, be He glorified,
لْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَر (التوبة: من الآية71)
"The believers, men and women, are Auliyâ' (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another, they enjoin (on the people) Al-Ma'rûf (i.e. Islâmic Monotheism and all that Islâm orders one to do), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islâm has forbidden…" (At-Tawbah 9:71)
And He says,
وَالْعَصْرِ إِنَّ الْأِنْسَانَ لَفِي خُسْرٍ إِلَّا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا بِالصَّبْرِ (العصر)
"By Al-'Asr (the time). Verily! Man is in loss, Except those who believe (in Islâmic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth (i.e. order one another to perform all kinds of good deeds (Al-Ma'rûf)which Allâh has ordained, and abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds (Al-Munkar)which Allâh has forbidden), and recommend one another to patience (for the sufferings, harms, and injuries which one may encounter in Allâh's Cause during preaching His religion of Islâmic Monotheism or Jihâd, etc.)." (Al-'Asr 103)
Advice is from recommending one another to the truth, likewise is His statement,
تَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالتَّقْوَى(المائدة: من الآية2)
"…Help you one another in Al¬Birr and At¬Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety)…" (Al-Ma'idah 5:2)
Advice is from helping one another in piety and righteousness. The prophet said, "the religion is sincere advice, the religion is sincere advice, the religion is sincere advice, and it was said, to whom O messenger of Allah? He said, to Allah, to his book, his messengers, to the leaders of the Muslims, and the general common folk". So advise her and say, "My sister it is not permissible for you to visit the graveyard, not your husbands or anyone else's, as the prophet has cursed the female visitors of the grave." Advise her and tell her that visiting the graveyard is not permissible for women visiting her husband or anyone else and that most of the hadeeth show that it is from the major sins as cursing only occurs for great sins but she can supplicate for him in her home or any other place and ask Allah to merciful to him and she can give charity on his behalf but as for visiting the graves to visit him then this is prohibited. It is upon you to advise her and teach her and we ask Allah for guidance and success for all.
Translated by
Eesa John Starling
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